When it comes to really celebrating the start of a marriage, I think many couples are drawn to the idea of an elopement. The intimacy involved in planning something off the grid, in a beautiful location is romantic, and private, and deeply personal.
At the same time, I hear from many couples who think about eloping first and then realize that their families really want to have a chance to celebrate with them. In the end, many couples opt for a larger wedding.
I also have couples who really crave that crazy, amazing, party with their family and friends, as much as they want the intimate moment together at an elopement.
My solution? Do both!
Have your elopement and your (bigger) wedding too
There is nothing to say that you can’t have your cake and eat it too.
I’ve worked with countless couples who value the experience of starting their marriage privately, with just the two of them (and their photographer, of course!).
They take the time to plan a personal experience where they can explore in nature, read their personalized vows, and declare themselves married with a champagne toast.
And then a few weeks later, they gather together with their closest family and friends, and host a full-blown wedding complete with ceremony, toasts, dancing, and fantastic wedding attire.
I encourage you, wherever you fall on the spectrum of big or small wedding, that you chose a celebration that is the epitome of who you are as a couple and what your marriage means to you.
And if it fits you, have an elopement and a big wedding, too!
Planning a double celebration? Tell me about it–I absolutely LOVE weddings shaped like this.